Love Or Respect: Which Do You Prefer?
How Husbands Should Treat Their Wives Men
And women are different.
Despite being equal in every mental
aspect and almost every physical aspect,
we are still different.
Therefore, it should be no surprise that
there is a difference in how husbands treat
their wives and wives treat their husbands.
The most important emotion a husband
can show his wife is love.
That is what women are looking
for from their men. Love.
Respect, friendship,
and support are all important.
But love is the foundation of all of these things.
I can give you all sorts
of anecdotal evidence.
Stories about women enduring all sorts
of mental abuse and neglect because
want their men to love them.
And I can also cite cases where a woman
would leave an otherwise good man
if she feels he doesn’t love her.
But rather than do that,
I’ll just quote from the Quran and hadith.
And live with them in kindness.
For if you dislike them –
perhaps you dislike a thing and Allah
makes therein much good.
Surah Nisa Verse 19
And from the hadith:
He has further stressed:
“The most perfect believer in the matter
of faith is one who has excellent behavior;
and the best among you are
those who behave best towards their wives.”
Collected by At-Tirmidhi.
Allah and His Messenger
(peace be upon him)
are showing us the way men
should behave with their wives.
Treat them with kindness.
Do not dislike or hate them.
Treat them with the best behavior.
It is very difficult to have a relationship
like this with a woman and not love her.
And the interesting thing is,
the more you love your wife,
the more she respects you.
Which brings me to my next point.
How Wives Should Treat Their Husbands
Men don’t need love as much as women do
. But what men do
need is respect.
Men will fight each other
over perceived disrespect.
So it is important that a woman
always show respect towards her husband.
Respect means to hold
someone in esteem or honor.
What men most want from their wives
is to be honored and respected.
The easiest way to turn your husband
against you is to attack his ego.
And on the other side,
the more respect you show your husband,
the more he will love you.
The command to respect your husband comes
from Allah in the Quran when He says:
So righteous women are devoutly obedient,
guarding in [the husband's] absence
what Allah would have them guard.
Surah Nisaa Verse 34.
And from the hadith:
When any woman prays her five,
fasts her month,
guards her body and obeys her husband, it is said to her:
‘Enter paradise from whichever of its doors you wish.’”
Collected by At-Tirmidhi.
So you see that the primary commandment
for a woman towards her husband is to respect
him through obedience and modesty.
And it so happens that when a woman
increases her respect for her husband,
he likewise increases in love for her.
And when a man increases his love for his wife,
she likewise increases in respect for him.
It Takes Two To Make A Marriage Work
Chances are if you ask a man why
he doesn’t show more love to his wife,
he would say:
“I will love her more when she respects me more.”
And if you ask a woman why she doesn’t
respect her husband she may say:
“I will respect him more when he loves me more.”
The fact is it takes two people to make a marriage work.
The husband has to show his love to his
wife in order to gain her respect.
And the wife has to show her
respect to her husband to gain his love.
This love and respect also plays out in
sexual relations between husband and wife.
Men are turned on by women who
respect them and women are
turned on by men who love them.
My advice to you, if you are already married,
is to begin showing your spouse more love and respect.
Brothers, whatever stage of marriage you’re in,
show your wife that you love her.
Kiss her more often; not just when you want sex.
Buy her little gifts for no reason at all.
Just tell her you love her and why you
love her and tell it from your heart.
If you do this, you will see your relationship
with your wife grow to unprecedented levels.
Your wife will begin to treat you like the
great man she always wanted to marry.
Sisters, the same for you.
Whatever stage of marriage you’re in,
show your husband that you respect him.
Obey him without question when he
asks for something within reason.
Let him be the man; do not
shout at him or belittle him.
Ask his opinion and advice
about things in your daily life.
When you do this, you will see
your husband’s love for
you begin to overflow.
He will want to love you and protect
you and make you happy in any way he can.
For those of you who are not married,
please take this advice and keep
it in the back of your mind.
It’s very easy to lose love and respect
for your spouse after the honeymoon is over.
But try with everything you’ve
got to give love and respect and,
Inshallah, you’ll get so much more back in return.
By Abu Ibrahim Ismail
The most important emotion a
husband can show his wife is love.
That is what women are looking for from their men. Love.
Respect, friendship, and
support are all important.
But love is the foundation of all of these things.
I can give you all sorts of anecdotal evidence.
Stories about women
enduring all sorts of mental
abuse and neglect because want their men to love them.
And I can also cite cases
where a woman would leave
an otherwise good man if she feels he doesn’t love her.
But rather than do that,
I’ll just quote from the Quran and hadith.
And live with them in kindness.
For if you dislike them – perhaps you
dislike a thing and Allah makes therein much good.
Surah Nisa Verse 19
And from the hadith:
He has further stressed:
“The most perfect believer in the matter of
faith is one who has excellent behavior;
and the best among you are those
who behave best towards their wives.”
Collected by At-Tirmidhi.
Allah and His Messenger (peace be upon him)
are showing us the way men
should behave with their wives.
Treat them with kindness.Do not dislike or hate them
.Treat them with the best behavior.
It is very difficult to have a relationship
like this with a woman and not love her.
And the interesting thing is,
the more you love your wife,
the more she respects you.
Which brings me to my next point.
How Wives Should Treat Their HusbandsMen
don’t need love as much as women do.
But what men do need is respect.
Men will fight each other
over perceived disrespect.
So it is important that a woman always
show respect towards her husband.
Respect means to hold someone
in esteem or honor.
What men most want from their wives is
to be honored and respected.
The easiest way to turn your husband
against you is to attack his ego.
And on the other side,
the more respect you show your husband,
the more he will love you.
The command to respect your husband
comes from Allah in the Quran when He says:
So righteous women are devoutly obedient,
guarding in [the husband's] absence
what Allah would have them guard.
Surah Nisaa Verse 34.
And from the hadith:
When any woman prays her five, fasts her month,
guards her body and obeys her husband, it is said to her:
‘Enter paradise from whichever of its doors you wish.’”
Collected by At-Tirmidhi.
So you see that the primary commandment
for a woman towards her husband is to respect him
through obedience and modesty.
And it so happens that when a woman
increases her respect for her husband,
he likewise increases in love for her.
And when a man increases his love for his wife,
she likewise increases in respect for him.
It Takes Two To Make A Marriage Work Chances
are if you ask a man why he
doesn’t show more love to his wife,
he would say:
“I will love her more when
she respects me more.”
And if you ask a woman why she doesn’t
respect her husband she may say:
“I will respect him more
when he loves me more.”
The fact is it takes two people
to make a marriage work.
The husband has to show his love to his wife
in order to gain her respect.
And the wife has to show her respect
to her husband to gain his love.
This love and respect also plays out in
sexual relations between husband and wife.
Men are turned on by women who respect
them and women are turned
on by men who love them.
My advice to you,
if you are already married,
is to begin showing your
spouse more love and respect.
Brothers, whatever stage
of marriage you’re in,
show your wife that you love her.
Kiss her more often;
not just when you want sex.
Buy her little gifts for no reason at all.
Just tell her you love her and why
you love her and tell it from your heart.
If you do this, you will see your relationship
with your wife grow to unprecedented levels.
Your wife will begin to treat you like
the great man she always wanted to marry.
Sisters, the same for you.
Whatever stage of marriage you’re in,
show your husband that you respect him.
Obey him without question when
he asks for something within reason.
Let him be the man;
do not shout at him or belittle him.
Ask his opinion and advice about
things in your daily life.When you do this,
you will see your husband’s love
for you begin to overflow.
he will want to love you and protect you
and make you happy in any way he can.
For those of you who are not married,
please take this advice and keep
it in the back of your mind.
It’s very easy to
lose love and respect for your
spouse after the honeymoon is over.
But try with everything you’ve got to
give love and respect and, Inshallah,
you’ll get so much more back in return.
By Abu Ibrahim Ismail
The most important emotion a husband
can show his wife is love.
That is what women are
looking for from their men.
Love.Respect,
friendship,
and support are all important.
But love is the foundation
of all of these things.
I can give you all sorts
of anecdotal evidence.
Stories about women enduring
all sorts of mental abuse and neglect
because want their men to love them.
And I can also cite cases where a woman
would leave an otherwise good man
if she feels he doesn’t love her.
But rather than do that,
I’ll just quote from
the Quran and hadith.
And live with them in kindness.
For if you dislike them
– perhaps you dislike a thing and Allah makes
therein much good.
Surah Nisa Verse 19
And from the hadith:He has further stressed:
“The most perfect believer in the
matter of faith is one who has excellent behavior;
and the best among you are those
who behave best towards their wives.”
Collected by At-Tirmidhi.
Allah and His Messenger (peace be upon him)
are showing us the way men
should behave with their wives.Treat them with kindness.
Do not dislike or hate them.
Treat them with the best behavior.I
t is very difficult to have a relationship
like this with a woman and not love her.
And the interesting thing is,
the more you love your wife,
the more she respects you.
Which brings me to my next point
.How Wives Should Treat Their Husbands Men
don’t need love as much as women do.
But what men do need is respect.
Men will fight each other
over perceived disrespect.
So it is important that a woman always
show respect towards her husband.
Respect means to hold
someone in esteem or honor.
What men most want from their wives
is to be honored and respected.
The easiest way to turn your husband
against you is to attack his ego.
And on the other side, the more respect
you show your husband,
the more he will love you.
The command to respect your husband
comes from Allah in the Quran when He says
:So righteous women are devoutly obedient
, guarding in [the husband's] absence
what Allah would have them guard.
Surah Nisaa Verse 34.
And from the hadith:
When any woman prays her five,
fasts her month, guards her body and
obeys her husband, it is said to her:
‘Enter paradise from whichever of its doors you wish.
’” Collected by At-Tirmidhi
.So you see that the primary commandment
for a woman towards her husband is
to respect him through obedience and modesty.
And it so happens that when a woman
increases her respect for her husband,
he likewise increases in love for her.
And when a man increases his love for his wife,
she likewise increases in respect for him.
It Takes Two To Make A Marriage Work Chances
are if you ask a man why he doesn’t
show more love to his wife,
he would say:
“I will love her more when she respects me more.
”And if you ask a woman why
she doesn’t respect her husband she may say:
“I will respect him more when he loves me more.
”The fact is it takes two people to make a marriage work.
The husband has to show his love to
his wife in order to gain her respect.
And the wife has to show her respect
to her husband to gain his love.
This love and respect also plays out in
sexual relations between husband and wife.
Men are turned on by women who respect t
hem and women are turned on by men who love them.
My advice to you, if you are already married,
is to begin showing your spouse more love and respect.
Brothers, whatever stage of marriage you’re in,
show your wife that you love her.
Kiss her more often; not just when you want sex.
Buy her little gifts for no reason at all.
Just tell her you love her and why you
love her and tell it from your heart.
If you do this, you will see your relationship
with your wife grow to unprecedented levels.
Your wife will begin to treat you like
the great man she always wanted to marry.
Sisters, the same for you.
Whatever stage of marriage you’re in,
show your husband that you respect him.
Obey him without question when
he asks for something within reason.
Let him be the man;
do not shout at him or belittle him
.Ask his opinion and advice about
things in your daily life.
When you do this,
you will see your husband’s love
for you begin to overflow.
He will want to love you and protect you
and make you happy in any way he can.
For those of you who are not married,
please take this advice and keep it in
the back of your mind.
It’s very easy to lose love and respect
for your spouse after the honeymoon is over.
But try with everything you’ve got to
give love and respect and, Inshallah,
you’ll get so much more back in return.
By Abu Ibrahim Ismail